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Why grading girls on the 1 to 10 scale fucks our selfesteem

There are only 1s and 0s. Either you like them enough to want to be with them, or you don't.




No girl is superior to the next, there's no nobility in being born with a pretty face and body. The only difference between hot girls and not so hot ones is the behavior men manifest around them.




Around hot girls, men will become vulgar, say nasty "complements" and behave in an animalistic manner. So the girl feels threatened by the guy, its an innate fear that comes from the fact that she's weaker physically than the guy, and makes her feel almost attacked, so because she's in a public place she knows she is protected by the crowd and will attack back with a mean and arrogant response. The hot girl feels threatened by the guy, and this constant feeling of threat makes them more alert and more aware of signs of 'lameness'.




A guy is lame when he feels unworthy of something, and even lamer when he feels unworthy and still goes for it, because in that case he's practically asking the girl to reject him with every sign of body language he unconsciously makes. He believes deep down that he should not get the girl, and that belief is projected throw he's body language. Body language is to people, and specially to girls, the equivalent to the lie detector's data. And girls are very good at reading this data. This is what makes their approach fail, as they don't feel like they deserve 'the girl', putting the girl in the position of something that is 'to be had' and therefore objectifying her.




this feeling of unworthiness in turn makes guys behave in a vulgar fashion and say nasty complements, and the vicious circle perpetuates itself, creating a culture of 'the mean hot girl' and the 'friendly ugly girl' which is just a product of insecurities manifesting in a manner unhelpful to us as individuals and collectively, not only as guys or as a community, but as humans.




every person (girl) is composed of a body, and a soul.


The body is assigned randomly at birth, but the soul is the same for every baby. The soul of every person is the same, it has the same value and its who the person really is, deep down. the body is nothing but an outer shell that tells you nothing about the soul.
The person, from now on the girl, is a combination of her body, her soul, and the sum of all her life experiences.

Then, the only difference between hot girls and ugly girls is the life experiences they've had.
Her body is who she is the first 10 minutes after you meet her, at most. Her life experiences and her body combined are who she is in the next days, and if you actually get to know her soul, you are a very lucky man.

Because the body, and its hotness, is randomly assigned to the soul, no hot girl feels like she's any different or superior to any other girl, until they are conditioned to think so by society. That being said, most hot girls, (the intelligent ones) hate to be treated differentially just because of their looks, and will appreciate a man that can appreciate that deep down, their body is just a facade, and their true self is just a normal human being, that wants to be treated normally, by people that behave normally.
this cry for normalness is very common among everyone that is treated differently by people, and knowing this is a very powerful thing. Treat people thought of as lesser human beings, such as the homeless, as normal people, and you will win their hart. Treat them as superior people and you will be thought of as a fan, treat then as lesser human beings and you will be hated.

The one thing i want you to remember is to treat all people as your equals, no matter their gender, their hotness or their social status, and you will be very well liked. Don't cathegorise people or they will categorise you.